What's Love got To Do with It?

Relationships are the cornerstone of our lives, and they play a significant role in our happiness and wellbeing. However, as human beings, we are prone to making mistakes and hurting those we love. If you're reading this, it's probably because you're going through a tough time in one of your relationships. Maybe there was a fight, a misunderstanding, or a major breakdown in communication. When a bond becomes broken, it can leave us feeling lost, alone, and overwhelmed. Whatever the cause, I want you to know that you're not alone. Everyone experiences relationship struggles at some point in their lives. While we can't control how other people feel or the future of our relationships, we can seek to understanding their perspective and start to find a path to move forward. In this blog, I'll share ideas on where to start to repair the bond with those we love. Whether it's a friendship, a family member, or a romantic partner, these tips can help you find a place to start to rekindle the bon...

Hey if you're reading this you're probably curious about couples counselling - and I don't blame you! Relationships can be wonderful, but they can also be challenging, especially when disagreements and conflicts arise. As someone who's been through the ups and downs of a long term partnership, I know first-hand how hard it can be to navigate those rough patches. I'll be honest with you, my partner and I have been together for 30 years and about 10 years ago it all fell apart and we separated for a few years. Since then we have worked extremely hard to create a strong, supportive and loving relationship. I'm a relationship counsellor and it still happened to me, so I definitely won't be judging anyone. I have a realistic, compassionate approach and know how messy life can get. I'd love to share with you how couples counselling can help you and your partner strengthen your emotional connection, build intimacy with your partner and create patterns of more effective communication. 

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Love can be a rollercoaster ride, full of exhilarating highs and heart-wrenching lows. But what happens when you're not sure whether to buckle up for another round or get off the ride altogether? This is the perennial question at the heart of countless relationships: Should I Stay or Should I Go? It's a question that's been asked by everyone from The Clash to Carrie Bradshaw, and it's one that can cause us no small amount of anxiety and uncertainty. But fear not! In this post, we'll explore the ins and outs of this question, helping you navigate the uncertainty of love and relationships with a little more clarity and confidence

At its core, 'Should I Stay or Should I Go?' is a question about uncertainty: uncertainty about the future of a relationship, uncertainty about our own feelings and needs, and uncertainty about what we truly want and value in life. This question can arise for a variety of reasons, such as when we're experiencing doubts or conflicts with our partner, when we're ...

Imagine this: you're on a first date with someone, and things are going pretty well. You're laughing, you're flirting, and you're feeling that spark of attraction. But then, they casually mention that they have a pet carpet snake, and suddenly you're having flashbacks to that time your cousin's carpet snake crawled up your leg when you were six years old. Cue the panic attack.

Sound familiar? Well, it turns out that your childhood experiences might have more of an impact on your adult relationships than you think. Specifically, your attachment style - the way you formed emotional bonds with your primary caregivers as a child - can shape the way you interact with romantic partners later in life. And don't worry, I'm not going to get all Freudian on you. This is science, baby.

What is Attachment Theory anyway?

Ah, Attachment Theory - the study of how your childhood scars can haunt you for the rest of your life. Just kidding...kind of. Attachment theory is actually a psychological fram...

Picture this: You're sitting in a therapist's office, trying to open up about your relationship issues, but you just can't get comfortable in that stiff, unforgiving chair. You fidget, you shift, you wonder if  the counsellor is secretly judging you for not being able to sit still. Meanwhile, your mind is racing with questions: Should you have prioritised chair comfort when choosing a relationship counsellor? Can you really trust a therapist who doesn't care about their clients tushes? Fear not, my chair loving friends - in this step by step guide, I'll help you navigate the tricky terrain of finding the right relationship counsellor and the perfect place to park your tush. Get ready to sit back, relax and discover the comfiest path to better relationships!

First things first: it's important to acknowledge that choosing a relationship counsellor based solely on their chairs may not be the most effective strategy. After all, a therapist's qualifications, experience and counselling appr...