What's Love got To Do with It?

Alright, let’s get real for a second. If you’re reading this, it’s likely that you’re feeling disconnected in your relationship. Maybe you’ve tried counselling, maybe not, but you’ve hit a point where it feels like you’re just stuck. Same arguments. Same emotional walls. It’s exhausting, right?

Let me tell you something. This isn’t about just fixing “communication problems” or figuring out who’s right and who’s wrong. It’s about rebuilding the emotional bond between you and your partner. That’s what makes a 2-day Relationship Intensive so powerful. Instead of the usual fortnightly routine, this deep dive helps you understand and shift the patterns that are driving disconnection. It’s a focused, immersive experience that can get you and your partner back on the same team. 

I’ve been working with couples for years, and here’s why this approach is so different from...

Hello, fellow explorers of the human heart! Let's dive into the deliciously complex world of relationships. Today, we're going to talk about something seemingly trivial yet profoundly telling: how we greet our partners at the end of the day. Trust me, it's a microcosm of your entire relationship—a tiny moment that speaks volumes.

The Hug-o-Meter: Measuring Connection in Seconds

Let's start with the basics. Picture this: you walk through the door after a long day. How does your partner greet you? Is it a warm hug, a quick peck on the cheek, or a distracted "hey" while they stay glued to their screen? These seemingly small interactions are actually a reflection of your emotional connection. A warm embrace can say "You Matter To Me, I'm Here For You, and We're In This Together", while a lukewarm or distracted greeting might say "I don't really care about you".

The Science of the 'Hello': Tiny Moments with Big Impact

Our brains are wired to seek connection and reassurance,...

You may find yourselves at a crossroad in your relationship, and you may be thinking about what went wrong and wondering if it is possible to repair the hurt and disconnect that has accumulated over the years.

Strength of Connection

When it comes to looking at relationships, it can be helpful to consider the strength of your connection.

The strength of your connection can be understood by looking at a few key aspects:

1. The sense that you exist to each other: It is crucial to feel that you matter to one another and that you are present in each other's lives.

2. Being top of mind: A strong connection is one where you feel that you matter to your partner. That they think of you when you're not there and that they consider you and you them. 

3. A knowing that you are there for each other emotionally, physically (and intimately) when you need or when you reach for each other. 

4. Feeling cherished and protected: A healthy relationship involves feeling valued and...

In the hustle and bustle of our daily lives, it's easy to overlook the small yet powerful ways in which we unknowingly reject our partners. These seemingly insignificant actions, if left unaddressed, can gradually erode the foundation of love and connection within our relationships. Learn the subtle but detrimental ways we reject each other daily and the long-term effects they can have on our relationships.

1. Ignoring Emotional Needs: One of the subtle ways we inadvertently reject our partners is by dismissing or invalidating their feelings. When we fail to acknowledge or empathise with their emotions, we send a message that their inner world is insignificant. Over time, this can lead to a sense of isolation, resentment, and emotional distance between partners.

2. Withholding Communication: Silence can be just as damaging as hurtful words. When we avoid open and honest communication, we deny our partners the opportunity to be heard and understood. This withholding of...