Step 1 of my relationship intensive begins with a personal phone conversation. This is where we decide if we are the right fit for each other. I want to ensure that both partners are deeply committed to working on the relationship. There can be no violence, abuse, active affairs, or untreated addictions—these are essential boundaries for this process. We will discuss your expectations, your goals, and any questions you might have. 

Step 2 Involves each partner completing a comprehensive online questionnaire before our session. This allows me to hear directly from both of you—how you're feeling, what you’re missing, and what areas need attention. It will help identify your strengths and growth areas. Having this background information ahead of time ensures that I come prepared with a deeper understanding of your unique relationship.

Step 3 is when we meet face-to-face for the first time we will take time to explore your relationship -  where you are now, how you’ve arrived here, what happened along the way, what turning points have shaped your connection. We’ll identify the big milestones that have contributed to your current distress, we’ll aim to gain a deeper, more nuanced understanding of why you are where you are. 

Step 4 I take the time to get to know each of you. We’ll explore your individual stories—who you were before you became a couple. This is where we delve into how your childhood experiences shaped you, how you’re wired, and the beliefs and patterns you’ve brought into the relationship. By understanding each of you more deeply, we’ll get clearer on what it is that you truly need from your partnership. This step is about recognising the complexities of your individual selves, so we can better understand what’s at play in your relationship.

Step 5 we focus on those moments when you get stuck. We’ll look at the signals you’re sending and how they’re being perceived by your partner. This is where attachment needs and wounds come into play—those deep-seated fears of abandonment or rejection that flare up when you feel disconnected. We’ll slow everything down, unpacking these moments in real time, to explore how these wounds may be driving the distress. By understanding the attachment dynamics underneath, we can start to deal with the emotional pain that keeps you stuck.

Step 6 we bring it all together. We’ve slowed things down to understand what’s truly happening beneath the surface, and now we’ll focus on sending new signals—ones that foster connection, not disconnection. Together, we’ll work to create a safe haven, a secure base in your relationship, where both of you feel confident in bringing things up, where there is more compassion, more understanding. We'll aim to build a genuine connection, where you can be a comfort to each other in times of stress, you're interested in each others lives, enjoy intimacy and closeness.